In this fast-paced, social media-dependent world, we rely on the Internet for everything – from keeping in touch with old school friends and career networking to ordering takeaways and finding a cat-sitter for that weekend away.
“Looking for a partner in crime,” “Are you my other half? in neuroscience yet wouldn’t even get an associate’s degree in “Writing an Online Dating Profile 101.” Many of our clients were successful, personable people (from grad students to physicists) who would make great girlfriends and boyfriends—once they had a dating profile that made them sound unique, one that couldn’t be cut and pasted into someone else’s.
” and, my favorite, “I like candlelit dinners, sunsets and walks on the beach” (yes, people still say that! If you look at ten random profiles right now, I bet you’ll find the same thing—everyone’s “funny” and “laid-back” and “adventurous.” I used to have a standard, generic profile, too, with a list of adjectives and facts: fun, outgoing, great speller (looking back, not sure how that applied), and insert-a-bunch-of-other-adjectives here. First, I would spend 30-60 minutes talking to the client.
Anything concrete like this brings you alive to anyone reading. Make the effort to renew your profile on a regular basis with relevant information about yourself.
Many people find poor grammar and spelling a turn off, and the best of us can make mistakes, so be careful on this point.
‘Play up your love of anything sporty, outdoorsy or public – like concerts and exhibitions.’ Wouldn’t you know, profile photos that demonstrate you playing your guitar or downhill skiing – even if your face isn’t showing – get more messages.
Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive?
That said, the world of online dating can be daunting if you’ve never tried it before, so here are our top tips for making the most of your dating profile and spotting a great potential partner. Sometimes they know you better than you know yourself.
Even if you do like “walking on the beach” or “drinking wine in front of a roaring fire” leave it out – everyone says that.
If you’re really stuck, you can always ask friends to remind you.
Then, have a few trusted opposite-sex friends read your finished product and get their feedback.
Don’t choose a picture where you are not the main focal point. Summer lovin’ ‘Our latest research found that people in summery photographs were seen as more attractive than in their winter pics,’ says Kate. It’s good to love yourself but there is a line that should not be crossed. If so, don’t contact them if you’re someone who likes to be in bed by 9pm. A profile that mentions family and friends, volunteering, and enjoying spending time with kids is a good sign.