When your ex starts dating

Now, this is usually a fact of life that is relatively easy to accept — except when When your ex starts dating someone new, things can get uncomfortable pretty quickly.Even when you think you’re completely over your feelings, you’re not always ready to see them happily having feelings for someone new.

When your ex starts seeing someone else, however, you know it’s time to back off.

It’s not only unfair to you and your ex, but it’s unfair to that new person to continue keeping, um, like you were before. You also don’t want the new person getting suspicious of you, so you just act like another person your ex knows (even though this won’t work because the new person has probably stalked you to death and knows everything about you anyway — but that’s another story).

Deep down inside, you might have had this weird fantasy that you and your ex would get back together one day.

You might have starred in your own epic romance novel inside of your head, subconsciously convincing yourself that maybe, just maybe, those drunken hook-ups and late-night conversations meant the two of you were holding out for each other in the name of a grand love story.

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In an ideal world, when you break up with someone, they simply disappear from your life never to worry you again.

Maybe you moved on, but an unexpected wave of nausea still washed over you when you saw your ex tagged in a photo with that new person on Facebook, which made you feel betrayed. At one point in your relationship, you and your ex were convinced there was nobody else either of you wanted to be with. Your ex was your everything, your partner in crime, your number one person. Despite what you thought previously, your connection really Alexia La Fata is a Deputy Editor.

Whether you were aware of the fantasy or not, there’s no hope of it becoming a reality. A world in which you and your ex weren’t the yin to each other’s yang made no sense to you. She's a proud New Jersey native and Boston College graduate. She's a proud New Jersey native and Boston College graduate.

When it comes to dating, we’re notoriously reluctant to label anything.

We call ourselves a “thing,” not boyfriend and girlfriend (or boyfriend and boyfriend, or girlfriend and girlfriend). We don’t know if one, three or six dates signal the beginning of a relationship — if it even signals a relationship at all — and we never know if we’re exclusive or if we should actually continue seeing other people.

And that can make us all act just a little bit kooky — at least for a little while.