It’s far too complex, scary and difficult for mere mortals – so let’s bridge the gap by asking both men and women what doesn’t work when it comes to online dating Dating has gone digital.
Now, lets look at an example of a profile that will stand out through both the way they are written and their content.
Some women will think of the writer of the profiles below as weird, but…
The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.
You can’t watch as they smile, and that smile spreads up into their eyes and transforms their face into one of the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen – a thing that warms your heart and makes you realize you want to spend more time with the person. Unfortunately, the reality is nowhere near that fantasy.
What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.
Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.If he says this to you, he wants you to see what a great producer he is. He knows he’ll never have you mounted on his wall and likes it that way. I’ve quoted this before in my blogs and here it is again. Tell him something along the lines of this: “I really want you to be happy. Let him “explore all those possibilities” if there are any. If he’s a jerk, and leaves you-you win because who needs that? You let him “chase you” by letting him call, letting him make the plans. (After you’re an established couple, yes you can start calling him) 4.When asked the key to her successful marriage she said “When my husband gets a little complacent, I pack a bag and stay gone! If he’s just trying to get the reaction, get ready for flowers. (and yes…you let him know what you would like to do, too! It’s something you’ve been working at, excelling at and enjoy. You don’t tell him every detail of your life, so he wonders what you’re up to. You don’t have to tell him what you are doing every minute of every day.Anonymous Woman (AW): I can’t remember the exact year I signed up… Actually, now that I think about it, that was how most of the messages I got started.I don’t know, maybe some girls might think of that as a compliment but personally, I would have preferred a simple message like, “Hey, would you like to talk? It’s always the struggle (in dramatic detail) about the giant fish he caught. ” Dating tips for women: we let him chase us and how. I have an early morning and it’s time to go home.” Notice his actions. Men do a lot of things on purpose to get an emotional reaction from us. ) When he doesn’t get an emotional reaction from you, you just put the kibosh on that little game of his.