In this article I am going to call it “dating” and define it as “the process of finding a spouse.” I do not claim to be an expert: I realize that many varying opinions about dating float around Christian circles jumping over each other, getting mixed together, and consuming some people. You wish it could happen soon but it completely freaks you out. Some people call this dating, other people call it courting — there are likely countless terms you could use for the process.
I do not intend to defend a certain set of rules, or refute any.Neither will I pretend like I have the best advice, since I am not even married.Some people date for many years, others date for months, or even weeks. If you cannot do that, then you should not be dating: it is not fair to either of you.Like any relationship, dating and marriage should not be put into a box. Remember, you are trying to figure out if the two of you are a marriageable match. Your relationship is not so important that you cannot enjoy yourselves! Do romantic things, do normal things, do things together, and do things with your friends!Although it is not crucial to be good friends before you start dating, the better you know someone the, well, better. Although “to have fun” is not the purpose of dating, dating should be fun. Marriage will be one of the hardest things you do, so set a joyful precedent.
There will be differences, but they do not have to break the relationship. I mentioned it before, but it’s worth repeating: always pursue health.
So here goes: Your quality and purpose of life is not determined by whether or not you date or get married.
Always pursue God and health (spiritual, emotional, and physical) and you will be fine.
Don’t worry, this doesn’t mean you need to wear a full tuxedo, but having a shower, shave, using aftershave and putting on something suitable will help you impress your date and get you off to a good start.
Yes, you should never pretend to be someone that you’re not, but a girl might like to see that you take pride in your appearance.
Furthermore, the honor you show your parents will set a precedent for how your kids honor you. Since “what you feed is what will grow” stalking will likely nurture a fantasy of familiarity and romance in your own head, while it may never have even crossed the other person’s mind. There is a reason we call stalkers “creepy.” Your crush is not an object for you to drool over, nor do you have to know everything about them or always be around them.