It may take them time to accept a new person in their life.For example, Caroline, a 36-year-old teacher, described her new partner Kevin as thoughtful, affectionate, and a great match for her.Consider the amount of time since your divorce, the age of your children, and the level of commitment to your partner.
Don’t be surprised if your children reject your new partner at first.Some kids express anger or defiance and may even threaten to move out – or go to live with their other parent full-time.She paused and said “not really” and so I asked her to write down a list of pros and cons for her homework assignment.When Caroline arrived for her next session, she reported that she was having second thoughts about whether she had rushed into including Kevin in so many activities with Baylie, and she realized that Baylie was seeing him as a rival for her attention.5 Rules For Introducing Your New Partner To Your Children: Be sure to be careful about sleepovers with your partner when you have children living with you.
It’s not wise to plan an overnight with your new love interest in your home right away because it can increase rivalry between them and your kids.
On the other hand, adolescents may appear more accepting of your new partner than younger children, but they may still perceive that person as a threat to your relationship.
also found that teenagers may find open affection between their parent and a partner troubling – so go easy on physical contact in front of them.
Do you want your teenager to model their behavior after you?
If so, you owe it to yourself and your kids to build new relationships thoughtfully.
In sum, the key to successful parenting post-divorce is helping your kids heal from your breakup and introducing them to a new love too soon might complicate, delay, or damage this process.