"No profile, no picture will find you the perfect person.
Now that I am "single again," I wondered what was new in online dating in 2015.
Emily Bartz, dating content manager for Next (which provides independent reviews and research of online services for consumers and small businesses), told me that online dating sites are becoming better at matching you to potential dates and online dating is increasingly being done on mobile phone dating apps."The biggest complaint people have about online dating is wasting time with people they have nothing in common with.
When my marriage ended 11 years ago, I went online. They loved to ski, surf, go to the theater, travel to exotic places, go for walks on the beach, run marathons and read. "People present themselves in the best light online," he said.
So I signed up for Match.com, which has more than 21.5 million subscribers. One woman wrote me, "Unlike Popeye, I am NOT what I am but if nothing else I am kind and compassionate and to top it off I am interesting and exciting." None of the women on Match were boring. Philip Muskin, Professor of Psychiatry at Columbia University Medical Center, is not surprised.
But with 87 million singles in the United States and nearly 40 million dating online, it seemed a good way to meet someone.
"No one is going to respond to someone who says they are a couch potato and likes to stay home."I was lucky. (I have friends who have been on dating sites for years.) I corresponded with 50 women and met 15 for drinks, which is recommended over meeting someone for dinner. Because if after 15 minutes you don't like the person you are stuck; and for men that means the bill as well.But as a person living in New York City, fewer is relative and Tinder is free.And I liked the idea of not having to reading profiles; because after reading hundreds of online profiles you realize they are depressingly similar and yes, dare I say it, boring."We even matched two people in Antarctica."Unlike traditional dating sites, Tinder does not have profiles that tell you what a person likes to do, wants in a mate or information on height, weight, religion, children or political preferences.(There is a small "about" section on Tinder which is optional.I quickly learned that it's best not to go on Tinder too often because it can be addicting and exhausting. Who you see is based on where you are geographically as determined by your phone's GPS.