By avoiding actual human contact he isn’t forced to push his boundaries or risk challenging the perfection of his fantasy women with the experience of a real life woman.
For many reasons, it is difficult for him to make room for something real. Wide-Eyed but Distractable This primarily 20 to mid 30's guy is excited about the possibility of expanding his horizons and meeting new people.
Therefore, when he connects and makes plans online, he likely follows through, sometimes sooner, sometimes later.
Either way, unlike the first type listed, he has probably had more positive than negative dating experiences overall, so he may be open right away or over time to a committed, authentic relationship.
Most assumptions about how you and he will conduct your relationship are not as straight-forward and as they may initially seem. Trying to Get Over The Ex He is looking to avoid being alone after a heart-wrenching breakup.
Sometimes he will admit to the women he finds online that he is using Internet dating as a diversion, and sometimes he won’t.
More than finding a partner who will meet all his hopes and dreams, he wants everything he has longed for but couldn’t have in previous relationships.
(This category may also include the desire to act out sexual fantasies and fetishes that couldn’t previously be realized).He may be very well meaning, and may truly believe that once he meets these young women they will be so drawn to him that the deception won’t matter, and the age difference will be rendered irrelevant.However, starting a relationship with a lie—now matter how “harmless” it may seem to him—takes away from the woman’s ability to use her own discretion and decision-making power and therefore erodes trust.Internet dating enables him not to engage in a meaningful way.When he needs connection or the fantasy of a relationship, he can effectively “order out” for a date.I realize, as do you, that there are infinite varieties of men who engage in online dating for infinite reasons.