According to his results, in some cases it may be fear of rejection playing a part in that reluctance.
The only date I went on last year came about from someone who had messaged me.I can’t remember the message exactly but it did pick up on a couple of things I said in my profile and asked me about them. A paragraph or two at most to show that you’ve read their profile and not just looked at the pictures and try and engage with the other person.Dating site OK Cupid has carved out a nice little sideline in blogging about the statistics of their more successful users, to try to help people along the way, busting myths about what does and does constitute a good profile photo and whether eating oatmeal correlates with people you'll like or drinking beer correlates with sex on the first date.But noting trends is not the same as endorsing them - and some trends are simply disturbing.You get these gems: 'Black women are repulsive' 'Asian women are gold diggers' 'Latin women are loyal' It's pretty depressing stuff.
Admittedly, the dating game is not equal and it is not kind.That didn’t surprise per se but the quality of messages really did.As I noted in my previous piece women get way more messages than guys and they have a much harder job filtering them but on the other side of the ledger surely women should make effort to engage if they are messaging a guy?As well as race, online dating is famous for all kinds of social faux pas. A thoughtful online dater sends a pic of their face first.) In fact my time on dating and hookup sites is notable for the fact that only one person ever indicated through his initial contact that he had in fact read to the end of my advert, and dear reader, I married him.When I was single and dating at least I didn't have to contend with the horror of people fetishising my background, but that didn't stop a breathtaking number of penis pics making their way to my inbox. The impression that online dating is like online shopping, and lists of qualities add up to the perfect mate, goes against what we all know to be true in the real world: lists of stereotypes don't work.They are very short and punchy and mostly rather suggestive.