Valentine’s Day was basically invented to serve as the relationship anniversary day for every couple in the world, and you don’t have to worry about remembering the date thanks to the massive amount of advertising that companies buy up in February.So, you’re probably thinking that there’s nothing wrong with celebrating a relationship on two days out of the year.It’s a good thing to take a day to be thankful for your significant other.
A lot of people who write to me with concerns about having never had a relationship before worry about getting caught up in a toxic relationship.
They worry that there’s some man or woman out there who’s going to take advantage of their naiveté and lack of experience (and presumably greater desire to date) against them. Other times it’s a fear that they’re going to get suckered into a relationship that they don’t want or aren’t ready for yet – marriage, children, monogamy, polyamorous…
My first serious relationship was full of avoidable mistakes and disasters that one might charitably call “learning experiences” because I had no fucking clue what I was doing.
But as much fun as it is to get lost in the rush of that initial infatuation, you have to be careful.
A lot of people will tell you “never go to bed angry”, which isn’t necessarily helpful.
Instead it’s better to never go to bed without reminding each other that you love one another.
After all, a year is 365 days, according to Wikipedia. Just don’t get mad when you have to remind us of the date — a bad memory doesn’t mean that a guy is a bad person, or that our girlfriends aren’t important to us.
It just means that we suck at remembering things, and in addition to the anniversary, we probably forgot to buy milk, mow the lawn, or wear pants. That’s like getting mad at a dog for wagging its tail and knocking over a lamp.
Don’t let the anger blind you to the care and affection and trust you have for your partner…
no matter how much you may want to rip their goddamn head off right now.
The basic idea of this type of anniversary is to commemorate the beginning of a relationship, and celebrate the relationship itself.