Dear Mona, More Culture What is the average age difference among couples?My partner and I are 28 years apart, so I’m sure we’re an outlier, but by how much?A couple's sex life might also be strained by a large age gap; Fran Walfish, a Beverly Hills psychotherapist and panelist on Sex Box notes that sex drive increases for women in middle age, while sexual function declines for men.
Finally, there’s also the impact of “the marketplace”.
Like it or not, there are ages and individuals who feel that their value in the dating world is so high that they can have success with a very narrow set of criteria.
Of all those couples surveyed, the biggest age difference was 58 years.
I took a closer look at that particular case and found a 21-year-old man married to a 79-year-old woman.
There could be lots of couples who, like you and your partner, are increasing the average age difference but are still in the minority.
It’s easier to spot heterosexual outliers because I have the original data provided by the CPS.
Stay together for just two years and you're already 43 percent less likely to split up.
And you're 94 percent less likely to divorce if you make it to 10 years.
So I have to switch to a different data set if I want to include gay couples in my analysis (and I do! In this case, Facebook has some answers that might be of interest to you. Those in their early 20s have an average age difference in their relationships of about two to three years, but once people get into their 40s, that average age gap increases to about seven years.
The age difference increases for older male-female couples, too (shown in red below), though not by as much.
Men often pursue younger women, even if they aren’t interested in a family. Men certainly have a shorter average lifespan than women, but this doesn’t tell you anything about a particular guy.