Not only is that the way for it to grow, but also the only way you can truly get to experience the joy of real connection with another person. I have spent way too much time making excuse after excuse for men I've dated, thinking that if I were just better or more awesome, or if I waited long enough, he would become "ready" for the same things that I am ready for... But finally, through dating this younger guy, it sunk in -- it's actually not about me!
When two people are just in different places in their lives with regards to relationships, then it's just the way it is, and there is nothing you can do about it.
This also relates to someone's issues or emotional blockages.
Many people have blocks around emotional intimacy and commitment and are literally just not capable of it...
Since that breakup, I've been all over the place, pretty much going from one guy to the next, not really making the best choices; probably, on a subconscious level, as a form of protection.
But, ironically, through choosing to get involved with yet another "inappropriate" guy, I came full circle back to my heart.
It was very freeing, and is one of the reasons, I think, we had so much fun together (I'm sure the fact that he's incredibly laid back didn't hurt, either).
I am definitely carrying this with me as I move forward in my dating life.She can feel comfortable in setting the rules and doesn't need to feel like she is not in control of the situation.1. They are still enjoying the variations of different women.If commitment is something you may be looking for, you might want to opt for an older man.2.And, not only was I super happy, it also proved to be one of the most drama-free, stress-free dating experiences I've had in years.I realized that I chose to get involved because I knew I'd be OK when he and I did decide it was time to move on, because I've always been OK in the past.through it, I had some very profound realizations about myself, love and dating.1. He and I had a talk early on about the fact that it was obviously going to end at some point, because we're just at such different places in our lives.