The Bible does typically refer to family-arranged marriages (e.g., Isaac and Rebekah in Gen.
24), though a couple’s mutual consent wasn’t necessarily excluded (see Song of Songs; Jacob and Rachel in Gen. In our culture, dating has traditionally been directed toward marriage, as it builds a deepened relational intensity and intimacy that can only be satisfied within marriage’s safe boundaries.
We’ve heard of married persons having “emotional affairs” (i.e., extramarital emotional attachments with the opposite sex without physical involvement), but this can happen with single persons as well.
Disney movies and novels commonly portray two autonomous individuals who “fall in love” and then forge their future together, often against all odds and objections.
This pattern tends to ignore the shaping influence of the family and the family’s (often) constructive role in giving input about a prospective spouse.
As we look at some of these questions, it would be wise to review some of the pros and cons of dating.
Dating, however, isn’t mentioned in the Bible, and we shouldn’t try to find a “biblical basis” for dating, lest we superimpose our Western categories onto Scripture.
Furthermore, if entering and breaking exclusive relationships becomes a pattern during adolescence, it can be emotionally poor preparation for marriage—in addition to increasing sexual temptation.
Furthermore, the dating system usually leaves all the decision making to the young person who is emotionally involved, often immature, and beset by peer pressure with little significant input from parents or church.Whether you believe that dating, courtship, or some other format for relationships is right for you, I hope that you can take these things to heart and have the best friendships and relationships possible., in which couples seek to bypass the challenges and dedication that deep relationships—and, eventually, marriage—require.A guy and a girl who aren’t officially dating may send texts to each other during the wee hours of the night, “chat” extensively over Facebook, or “hang out” with each other on their i Phones or i Pads.Maybe they’ll call each other “BFFs” and watch movies or have dinner together, but they do so in a detached way—as though their sexual identity doesn’t matter.When a young man and woman spend a good deal of time together—whether via technology or face-to-face—emotional attachments are deepened.