Learning how to have a long-distance sex life may require a little extra effort, patience, and creativity, but you can make it work for your relationship! Ask your boyfriend what he envisions your sex life looking like when the two of you are apart.Send him this article or read it together, and discuss which of the strategies you’d feel comfortable trying.
Trying to be intimate when you’re miles apart is bound to be awkward at first and at times, but that’s OK. Most of all, the best tip I could give you is to remember to be yourself.Sexting has a way of making people feel like they have to put on an act or pretend to be someone else.Remember that it’s still you and your boyfriend being intimate.It’s great to experiment with role-playing, but you don’t need to be anyone other than yourself. Too bad you’ll have to wait until I get off work.” Send a naughty note via old fashioned snail mail.
There’s something about a hand-written letter that feels so different from a text or email.You get to hear your boyfriend’s responses in real time, which makes it feel less isolating.Plus it frees up your hands to do other things in the moment!You can start off tame, with a little message that says, “I miss your arms around me” or “I want to kiss you right now.” As you start to feel more comfortable, up the naughty factor with texts like, “I wish you were here in bed next to me.” If you still feel unsure of how to phrase your thoughts, try reading erotic fiction for inspiration.Get a sense of which words feel more natural to you than others. Next, try sending him an email describing what you’d like to do to him the next time you two see each other.Nonetheless, it’s probably the most exciting way to maintain your sex life when you’re apart.